Chicken Nuggets take 2
Today I added one thick slice of frozen Bob’s Red Mill wonderful homemade bread from the end of the loaf. I put it in the blender and mixed it with the crackers and flour. They looked, felt and tasted much better this time around. Next time I will either leave out the crackers or use a different type because they are leaving a nutty aftertaste that little J doesn’t like. He will take a bite out of each nugget but never finish one.
J’s teacher told me at his IEP meeting a few weeks ago that he was hitting them sometimes when he got upset. So after that I started asking when he got home, in addition to all the other specific questions I normally ask, “Did you get in any trouble today?” For the past few days of school he has answered “yes.” When I ask him what he got in trouble for he tells me hitting. Sometimes it is only one person and sometimes more. Today he listed 2 teachers and one student. Last week when I asked the “why?” question, twice he told me it was because he was trying to take the jump rope away and they wouldn’t let him. Today he couldn’t tell me. Also when I ask, “Is hitting a nice thing to do?” he begins with telling me “yes.” He also tells me this when he gets in trouble for hitting Little J.
While all of this lashing out is concerning to me, the most troubling thing is that in past week I haven’t heard anything from his teachers. If I wasn’t asking the questions of him, and him not knowing how to lie effectively, I wouldn’t know that this was happening. His teachers obviously love him very much. They always have wonderful things to say about him. On the occasion that I do pick him up from school, they will give me an honest report of the day and/or the day before but should I be hearing about every instance? Are they giving him too much leeway by not telling me? Should I just let them handle what happens in school, at school? I know that they are busy, excessively busy. Should I be expecting this much communication? Maybe I should just pick him up from school more often.
On a related note…I take J to a psychiatrist for medications and we will be starting OT this week. When we go to the Psych, I do most or all of the talking. It is mostly about medication management. We haven’t changed anything in a few months, but I thought we were maintaining the status quo, obviously not if he is in trouble daily for hitting and being aggressive at school. so we may need to change something. BUT, should he being someone else to “talk” about his anger? If he doesn’t always understand the “W” questions would this even help? Thoughts? Ideas?