Hairspray Hoarding

J takes a nap most days.  Just not in his bed.  In fact he will nap almost anywhere except his bed.  His favorites are the living room couch or my bed.  If I have nothing planned for the rest of the day then in my bed is ideal because it is dark and quiet and he will get the best sleep.


More than once this week I have gotten in bed at night to find a pile of hairspray, hair gel, body lotion, body spray bottles under the covers.  He has been gathering them from the bathroom and then sleeping with them. 


I knew I should have gotten him attached to teddy bear as a baby!


“I’m being a Statue”

This is what J told me 5 minutes ago.  I put him to bed 2 hours ago and he came out at the hour point to find some forgotten “toy” (a dowel rod/stick that is many items in his imagination).  Then I just saw his door open and I went to investigate.  He was sitting against the living room wall closest to his room.  It looked like he was asleep.  I got down on the floor to look more closely and with a deadpan voice he says, “I’m being a statue.”  I had to giggle.  Then the dog came over to investigate and he started to squirm away.  I told him if he was a statue then the dog gets to kiss him.  Otherwise he has to get up and go to bed.  He went to bed, go figure. 🙂


I pushed publish and he called out for me.  When I went to check on him he gave me this gem, “Mommy I saw lightening in my eyes.”  Yes honey thats what happens when you close your eyes at night.  “But there must be a storm outside”  no you are just seeing light in your eyes, go to sleep.  “okay, I love you”


Now as I’m typing this he comes out and says, “I’m suppose to wear pajamas.”  He usually picks them out during the bedtime routine but a couple times this past week he has gone to bed in a t-shirt so I didn’t think anything of it.  Luckily I had the rejected pair from last night sitting next to me and he put them on and is back in his room. 


One more “awakening” (I’m not sure he has been asleep yet) and I am going to have to up his dosage of melatonin.  Its obviously not working.  He didn’t nap too long today.  We got out for almost an hour’s exercise in the backyard.  He ate well.  He’s just not sleeping!  Not that I am trying to get to bed, cause I’m not, I just need him to sleep so that we can make it through tomorrow behavior wise.  We have an outing planned at naptime.  We may have to cancel if there is a case of the crankies.



I don’t recommend this as a bedtime for moms of children who get up at 7am.


Lots of things happened to cause this bedtime, the least of which that I just wasn’t sleepy.  was puttering on the computer until around 2:30am.  Then when I was about to go to bed to red a few pages, Little J came in crying and wanting to sleep with me.  Since hubby is on day shift and up at 5:30am this is a no no. I got him to potty and back in his bed along with a rice cake cause he was soooooo hungry (so he said).  Then I went to read my “few pages.”  Well turns out it was the climax and wrap up of an FBI thriller/romance book and I just couldn’t find a good stopping point.  Plus, most nights, I just read until I can’t keep my eyes open and that never happened.


So now, just plain exhausted.  I should have used my puttering time to write a blog, but I didn’t.

Tuesday we had 2 boys, who are foster kids of a friend at church, over to the house while their “mom” worked.  They were here from 8:15am – 12:30pm.  Things went REALLY well.  Usually and hour to hour and a half is all J can handle with friends and then a meltdown ensues.  We played a lot of different things including water play outside.  The boys had a blast and there were very few “hurt feelings.”  Most of those were between J and Little J.  So every one had fun and then they went home and we went to a b-day party.  When we got home we all crashed for naps.  When J woke up he was snuggling me and here is the conversation we had.

J:  I had fun today.

M:  Yeah?  What was fun today?

J:  Playing with my friends.

M:  Oh?  you liked having T and C over?

J:  Yeah.  Tonight when we pray, can you say a prayer for fun with my friends?

M:  Of course I can, but you can too.  You don’t have to say all the same words for your prayers.  You can change it just like mommy does.

J: uh huh.


When it was time for bed he said his normal words “Dear God, thank you for my friends and family.  Help God make all the things he makes.  In Jesus name, Amen.”  and then added, “I mean and thank you for the fun with my friends T and C today.”


He has been saying the first part verbatim for about a year.  His prayers used to be longer where he thanked God for family members by name and for other things around the house.  He came up with the part about helping God all by himself.  And I’ve tried to talk to him about the fact the we are talking to God so the sentence doesn’t make sense, but it does to him.  They both say prayers at night and then I follow up with one that usually includes “Thank you for all the fun we had today doing _________.  Help us get a good night sleep and be good tomorrow.”

This is the first time in a long time that he has asked for something different and specific in his prayer.  Its nice to get out of a rut.  Of course last night’s prayer was the same ole same ole but nothing exciting happened either.

Dog bed or pathway?

The boys wanted to build a path.  They started with couch cushions, I stole one back to sit on.  They added throw pillows.  and floor pillows.

J kept saying, “There has to be more pillows around here somewhere!”  Then they raided their beds.  Still the mantra continued.  As they placed pillows on the path they would take a few walks/runs/leaps around and then declare that it wasn’t enough.  “There has to be more pillows around here somewhere!”  I drew the line at using the pillows on my bed but did send them into the spare room, which is not unpacked, on a mission to hunt pillows in the closet.  When it was all over they had close to 20 pillows/cushions/etc.  the shape of the path kept changing.  It wasn’t good enough if there was a gap between pillows.

In the end we had this covering our living room…



The dog thought they made it just for her!  She wished they’d used some blankets too.

The search has ended

For the perfect homemade gluten free chicken nuggets!  I know some of you have been following the saga…and some of you are thinking “why is this important news?”  Well it is a big deal in our family.  Little J has not been impressed with my previous attempts at nuggets and in an effort to add something else to the lunch rotation besides salami and hot dogs, I have tried all sorts of combinations.  I found the right texture the last time, but not the right taste.


The other day I was thinking that maybe I should try the corn based fish fry stuff in the pantry.  Then while browsing at the grocery story I came upon Zatarain’s Crispy Fish Fry.  It looked to have the perfect seasonings and I am famliar with the brand so I know it is generally flavorful for Little J with out being too spicy for J.  I also liked that the instructions did not call for a coating of egg first so I could skip the messy step.  I started with a few tenders to make sure the boys would eat them before wasting a whole bag of tenders.  They were begging for more.  I just cut up chicken tenders into 3-4 pieces shook them in a bag of the mix and dumped them in the fryer.


Every batch came out perfectly.  I didn’t have any burnt ones in the beginning or the end.  I also didn’t have any uncooked chicken centers with perfect outside.  I wanted to gobble them up for myself!!!


So the boys each had a plateful that night with honey.  They have also tried them with ranch.  I have never seen plates to clean at the end of a meal!


So for your viewing pleasure:








Don’t mind the clutter. 😉



P.S.  We started our journey to a wheat free diet to encourage healthier bowels in Little J so that he would potty train.  Then he gave up altogether.  After a week at my parents’ house we are now about 95% accident free.  HORRAY!!!  We have bought our last package of diapers.

Long time no see

Hey peeps.  Its been a while.  And along with not writing, I also haven’t been reading.


Friday, Hubby and I left the boys with my parents for their first official sleep over.  (There was one other time but it began at like 10pm andended at 7am)  We left them around 2pm andI got back around 4pm on Saturday.  We took a little mini R&R at a local resort to celebrate our 9thanniversary.  Then I dropped hubby off at the airport so that he could spendthe next week with he family in San Antonio.  His baby sister is graduating from highschool this week.  The boys andI are spending the week with my family and just chilling.  My sister and her hubby andbaby are still living with my parents, so its been a full house.  But in a good way.  They should be moving into their apartment this week though.


We had a big week last week.  In terms of break through for J, we made some big leaps.  We went to the children’s museum with friends and J andthe 7 year old had a few moments of sustained, focused reciprocal play.  Also B WANTED to play with J andwas EXCITED to play with him.  We see B a few times a week in bible class andhome group settings.  BUT usually there is one or 2 other boys around that B is closer to in age andinterests so J just does his own thing.  Little J played with the younger girls of the family and we stayed at the museum over 2 hours.  This is about double the time that we normally stay.

Also, at the new rental house, we have in ground sprinklers that the boys have asked to be turned on nearly every day.  I bought a wading pool, filled it, and added a slide and we’ve turned the yard into a mini waterpark.  J who hates water in his face has spent 30 minutes at a time sliding into the pool with water splashing over him.  AND ENJOYING IT!  He wasn’t freaking out, he just wiped his face and did it again.  Yesterday we went to a friend’s house in my parents’ neighborhood to enjoy their in groundpool.  J spent the first 1/2 hour hanging out by the steps.  However, by the time we left he was swimming the length of the pool with out assistance from an adult (wearing a floatation body suit).  This is also huge, as he normally won’t go into water where he can’t touch the bottom. 


Things are going well.  We only have one more month until school starts.  His Occupational Therapists made the final transition on Wednesday.  He is doing well with the new one for the first half hour but starts to flake for the 2nd one.  I am going to give it a few more weeks before deciding what the cause is (time of day, medication, new therapist?)  HE’s only been going 2 months and has made great strides.  Last week his new therapist invited a new patient working with another therapist to join J for cooperative play on the swing.  He was a pro at the swinging and was able to give the girl tips to help her since she was at square one, where he used to be.  It was adorable and heart warming and amazing to see him be supportive of her while waiting his turn to do his favorite activity. 


So many people have commented lately about the changes they have seen in him.  I must store up these words and the things I write in my blogs to bolster me up on the days when it seems like nothing has changed.